Perhaps the simplest way to deal with these in-laws is to stay strong when it comes to saying no. Then you have to convey what your limits are. Choose what favors you actually feel good about doing, and politely refuse the others. Buscho reiterates this notion, emphasizing the fact that you and your partner have a family of your own that might need help more than your in-laws do.
Your priority is your own family — if you have kids — and your marriage.
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I have other commitments. In-laws who care about your life are nice.
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But in-laws who care too much about your life, to the point where they stop by unannounced and try to insert themselves into the choices you and your partner want to keep between the two of you, are annoying jerkheads who need to mind their own business. Dealing with them is similar to dealing with in-laws who ask too much.
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Passively not responding to questions and efforts to tell you what to do is one way of dealing with this issue. Another is to change the subject when the line is being crossed. At the end of the day, this issue is one of self-care and of you putting up good, healthy boundaries around your personal affairs. While setting those boundaries can be difficult, not setting them can create a whole horde of new problems. Limit contact if necessary — that is, fewer phone calls. Change the locks if you need to. These are the in-laws who basically hold views that are polar opposite to every one of yours.
This can start with mild disagreements, like when your father in-law loves football but you like computer games, meaning you need to pretend to know who the hell Thomas Braden or whatever is every time you have a family function. It is humblingly, annoyingly good. At one level it can be enjoyed for the vivid social detail that it purveys—the absolute stuff of history. Amanda Vickery refuses to follow grand generalizations.
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The result will please the academic who wants a good argument and the general reader who will enjoy a read that wittily shows women living within the bounds of a propriety which turn out to be less restricting than has been thought until now. A richly enjoyable feast of social history. Turning her back on 'victim studies,' Vickery shows women as robust participants in commercial and family life. It succeeds on two levels, first as an academic argument of the highest order, and second as a fascinating and enjoyable read.
Serious history is rarely this fun. Material of the kind is precious, and Vickery, who teaches history, is to be congratulated on her discoveries, and on her careful handling and publication of the material. Skip to main content.
A Gentleman's Daughter: Her Choice: A Gentleman's Daughter, Volume 1 (Unabridged)
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What was the life of an eighteenth-century British genteel woman like? Refuting the common understanding that in Georgian times the daughters of merchants, the wives of lawyers, and the sisters of gentlemen lost female freedoms and retreated into their homes, Vickery shows that these women experienced expanding social and intellectual horizons. As they embraced a world far beyond the boundaries of their own parishes through their tireless writing and ravenous reading, genteel women also enjoyed an array of emerging new public arenas—assembly rooms, concert series, theater seasons, circulating libraries, day-time lectures, urban walks, and pleasure gardens.
Based on the letters, diaries, and account books of over one hundred women from commercial, professional, and gentry families, this book transforms our understanding of the position of women in Georgian England. I have consider'd well his loss of time And how he cannot be a perfect man, Not being tried and tutor'd in the world: Experience is by industry achieved And perfected by the swift course of time.
Then tell me, whither were I best to send him?
And be in eye of every exercise Worthy his youth and nobleness of birth. Even with the speediest expedition I will dispatch him to the emperor's court. The DUKE's palace. Ah, Silvia, Silvia! Madam Silvia!
SPEED Marry, by these special marks: first, you have learned, like Sir Proteus, to wreathe your arms, like a malecontent; to relish a love-song, like a robin-redbreast; to walk alone, like one that had the pestilence; to sigh, like a school-boy that had lost his A B C; to weep, like a young wench that had buried her grandam; to fast, like one that takes diet; to watch like one that fears robbing; to speak puling, like a beggar at Hallowmas.
You were wont, when you laughed, to crow like a cock; when you walked, to walk like one of the lions; when you fasted, it was presently after dinner; when you looked sadly, it was for want of money: and now you are metamorphosed with a mistress, that, when I look on you, I can hardly think you my master. I account of her beauty. O, that you had mine eyes; or your own eyes had the lights they were wont to have when you chid at Sir Proteus for going ungartered! SPEED Your own present folly and her passing deformity: for he, being in love, could not see to garter his hose, and you, being in love, cannot see to put on your hose.
O exceeding puppet! Now will he interpret to her. Keep this remembrance for thy Julia's sake. Giving a ring. I have received my proportion, like the prodigious son, and am going with Sir Proteus to the Imperial's court. I think Crab, my dog, be the sourest-natured dog that lives: my mother weeping, my father wailing, my sister crying, our maid howling, our cat wringing her hands, and all our house in a great perplexity, yet did not this cruel-hearted cur shed one tear: he is a stone, a very pebble stone, and has no more pity in him than a dog: a Jew would have wept to have seen our parting; why, my grandam, having no eyes, look you, wept herself blind at my parting.
Nay, I'll show you the manner of it. This shoe is my father: no, this left shoe is my father: no, no, this left shoe is my mother: nay, that cannot be so neither: yes, it is so, it is so, it hath the worser sole. This shoe, with the hole in it, is my mother, and this my father; a vengeance on't! Now come I to my father; Father, your blessing: now should not the shoe speak a word for weeping: now should I kiss my father; well, he weeps on.
Now come I to my mother: O, that she could speak now like a wood woman!
Well, I kiss her; why, there 'tis; here's my mother's breath up and down. Now come I to my sister; mark the moan she makes. Now the dog all this while sheds not a tear nor speaks a word; but see how I lay the dust with my tears. I reckon this always, that a man is never undone till he be hanged, nor never welcome to a place till some certain shot be paid and the hostess say 'Welcome! But, sirrah, how did thy master part with Madam Julia? I understand thee not.
My staff understands me. But, Launce, how sayest thou, that my master is become a notable lover?
If thou wilt, go with me to the alehouse; if not, thou art an Hebrew, a Jew, and not worth the name of a Christian. Wilt thou go? O sweet-suggesting Love, if thou hast sinned, Teach me, thy tempted subject, to excuse it! At first I did adore a twinkling star, But now I worship a celestial sun.